The most offensive racist TV spot ever, or just stupidity on the part of Chinese people?

Well this thread has taken a turn

 

Next time check whether the woman has a sense of reality and humour. Ask about the meaning of Seinfeld or something...

A pretty doll might look lovely. I prefer to be with a real person who can genuinely laugh, cry and enjoy this thing called life.

@Marvey About the Dutch, yes they can be very much about "the business" but that means that they sometimes do things in their advantage, either cruel or politely. Being Dutch myself I know how to out-Dutch a Dutchie but if you have a thin skin you do not stand a chance. On the Dutch playgrounds you learn how to be mean and effective, you have to in order to survive.

 

Well, of course!

Actually, I think the best predictor of a good, long term relationship, assuming basic empathy, givingness, and communication skills, is the ability to own how your behavior affects others. If both people can do that without wacky denial or whatever they did as kids to avoid being shamed or whatever by their parents, then the relationship will over time asymptotically approach a state of non-suckness.

It takes a bit of strength of character and an ability to put yourself in the other person's shoes to say, "I get that it hurt when I said that thing, and I'm sorry and I'm going to do my best to not do that again". So, a person who can do that will probably have the tools to be more awesome if given half a chance.

 

There is a school of thought that suggests that the most important thing for a long term relationship (at least a monogamous one) is sexual compatibility. If you can't go outside the relationship for sex, then you better have that part "nailed". Ahaha. Oh me. My side! Aidez moi. You can, however, go outside the relationship to satisfy one's need for the other things - communication, political discourse, audio gear, etc, with friends.

 

Maybe you're just ugly?



What the hell do I know, I can't even get a date off those sites, so I'm worse off than you it seems.

 

I think you're just missing out on culture differences. Maybe you should date an ABC.

 

My grandma has literally wrestled a woman thirty years younger back to her seat so she could pay the bill. You do not mess with that kind of force.

 

I'm handsome and well groomed. Like a cat, of course.

Well, maybe if you didn't pile-drive women, like you're doing in your photo, then they'd want to go out with you, ya lunatic!

 

Hey now.... that's a scoop bodyslam, not piledriver

 

Such is the way of the Force. Always seeking balance, it is.

 

We derail to go back to the topic, at one point...



P.S. This is a Dutch commercial...

 

Britain has never really been called to account for the awful things it did in the past. It doesn't seem like there was ever a day of reckoning here. Just a gradual dissolution. Up until very recently, our colonial history has also remained astonishingly absent from our school education. Instead, we focus on 1066, Waterloo and contributions to the World Wars, conveniently skipping over all the murdering and subjugation. Unless you seek out the information for yourself, many people here can grow up not really understanding why people from other countries still harbor so much resentment for England, why our interference in foreign affairs is still particularly unwelcome, and why at sporting events other nations (especially Scotland) are extra keen to beat England and will talk about it for months afterwards, even though we're not even that great at most sports anymore.

The city I live in, Bristol, which is a maritime city, gained most of its wealth from the slave-trade and there are shameless reminders of that everywhere you look. Most days I walk along "Whiteladies Road" and then up "Blackboy Hill" and through the squares with the grand houses which were built and owned by all the rich slave-merchants. The past is the past, and I love living here, but the deep wrongness of where lots of this has come from is rarely acknowledged. The biggest music venue here is named after one of the very worst offenders, who was at least partly responsible for transporting around 100,000 slaves. Massive Attack, who are from Bristol, said they won't play there until the name is changed.

Worryingly, some of the older generations here still live off those "glory" days of the Empire for their sense of nationalism and Britain's place in the world. It's interesting in the context of the upcoming referendum about leaving the European Union. On the whole, it seems to be very much a generational divide with the older one believing that Britain should once again be proud and stand on its own, while the younger generation seem to feel that those days are long gone and are much less optimistic about our global-standing - now that it's more difficult to just step on people who don't agree with us.

 

I'm sure he is not ugly... but his choice of chest-wear does him no favours at all. However, he's very attached to it!

As a Brit living in India, I am a bit surprised that, mostly, we are quite welcome here. What I really don't understand, though, is that the colonial days are getting sanitised in Indian education. You don't have to go back to UK to find the idea that British rule was not all bad and they gave India railways and so on --- rather than that they (err... we) ruthlessly and thoroughly plundered the country and got out only when there was no more blood to be drained.

 

This is one of the reasons I mentioned culture differences. Fighting over the check is not playing games. It's being polite. Same as the other girl saying he didn't match what she was looking for: he translated it into a sugar daddy, which may have been true, but there's a different sort of "take care of me" expectation from many Chinese women that is not the same as a sugar daddy and could have been what she really meant.

The dog collar, well that's obviously a culture difference, but not specifically a Chinese culture difference.

Actually, not sure if you were saying Kunlun shouldn't date an ABC or if you were saying it wasn't culture differences.